{"id":18739,"date":"2026-04-06T18:57:11","date_gmt":"2026-04-06T17:57:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.42ndgenerationfoundation.com\/achieversfaithdigest\/?p=18739"},"modified":"2026-04-19T18:57:38","modified_gmt":"2026-04-19T17:57:38","slug":"be-emboldened-to-say-nay-no-when-it-matters-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.42ndgenerationfoundation.com\/achieversfaithdigest\/be-emboldened-to-say-nay-no-when-it-matters-4\/","title":{"rendered":"Be EMBOLDENED To Say NAY [NO] When It Matters"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Be EMBOLDENED To Say NAY [NO] When It Matters: There’s Enabling GRACE For It!\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

“For the GRACE of God has appeared that OFFERS SALVATION to all people. 12 It TEACHES us to SAY \u201cNO\u201d to UNGODLINESS and WORLDLY PASSIONS, and to LIVE SELF-CONTROLLED, UPRIGHT and GODLY LIVES in this PRESENT age, 13 while we WAIT for the BLESSED hope\u2014the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, 14 who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good”\u00a0<\/i>Titus 2:11-13 NIV\/Emphasis Mine.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We live in a time wherein most people have indebted themselves or found themselves at crossroads because they\u00a0want\u00a0to DO God for others, to PLEASE planet earth, and MAKE everyone HAPPY at their inadequacies, to SAVE face from offending and to ENSURE their PRIDE in pain. I say Enough of that COWARDICE\u00a0ACT\u00a0of life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I am\u00a0here to let you know that\u00a0it’s\u00a0high\u00a0time\u00a0to\u00a0STOP\u00a0making promises you CAN’T keep so that you can walk with your head up and shoulder high, and on your high heels, in grace and peace of mind. And it’s time to also let you know that it is not a crime or even a sin to say NO to a demand or gesture that wants you to do contrary to your FAITH capacity toward God in Christ Jesus stead; and much more, you don’t need to be daunted when you have to say NO to a demand due to your inability to meet up with the statuesque of others demand and the prevalence in your set environment.\u00a0Don’t\u00a0be the people pleaser, be God’s pleaser toward people\u00a0in order to\u00a0save your breath, live healthily in an onward and upward trajectory, otherwise when you fault being a people pleaser, you may be gone without remedy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u00a0don’t\u00a0have to put yourself\u00a0at\u00a0a crossroad to swear or take an oath to prove your point of ability or inability – for you owe nobody an apology\u00a0for\u00a0what you can or cannot. Be truthful to yourself in God and be EMBOLDENED to say NO [NAY], to any unwelcome demand, just as you can say also YES [YEA] – in ALL matters of DOING life; this\u00a0act\u00a0to say NO and Yes in your own charged control, will help to enhance your today and tomorrow in doing life and living godly without feeling guilty.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“But ABOVE ALL THINGS, my brethren, SWEAR NOT, neither by heaven, neither by the earth,\u00a0neither\u00a0BY ANY OTHER OATH: but let your YEA be YEA; and your NAY, NAY; lest ye fall into condemnation”<\/i>\u00a0<\/i><\/b>James 5:12\/Emphasis Mine.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Lots of people have ended up in debt\u00a0in order to\u00a0– save face, please others for no just cause and to fit into the demands of peers and statuesque of colleagues and friends. Beloved in Christ, we are not in a competitive world with any or yourself to make you belong. You are a child of God and of PURPOSE. Live within your FAITH and PURPOSE capacity.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s\u00a0a more gracious\u00a0and\u00a0graceful sphere, to follow your God’s given PLAN, PURPOSE and PURSUIT in life, if you must\u00a0find\u00a0your true HAPPINESS and MEANINGFUL FULFILLMENT in LIFE and GODLINESS. Ensure that you LIVE and DO LIFE as by the prompting of the Lord by His Holy Spirit in you, and through the WORD,\u00a0in order to\u00a0live free and be happy to help\u00a0anywhere\u00a0you can, without guilt and shame at any point.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

May I enjoin you to know that the Scriptures\u00a0indicate\u00a0that the justified in Christ Jesus shall live by their own FAITH in God through Him. So let nobody make you or put you through pressure to be their ANSWER and especially to their so-called DESTINY HELPER; to be the ANSWERS to their PRAYERS when you are not God, knowing you are unable to fit into that shoe\u00a0as\u00a0been pressured.\u00a0Don’t\u00a0LIVE someone\u00a0else’s\u00a0life of FAITH for them –\u00a0it’s\u00a0unscriptural. Worst still,\u00a0is\u00a0to\u00a0DO God for them. Our God is a jealous\u00a0God;\u00a0He does not share His person and GLORY with any –\u00a0BE\u00a0WARN.\u00a0He’s\u00a0our HELP and HELPER in all life ramification and not man – so\u00a0don’t\u00a0do God to be classed\u00a0a very good\u00a0person, for Jesus Christ in humanity even rejected such pressure and acclaimed – ONLY GOD IS GOOD.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“Behold, God is mine HELPER: the Lord is with them that uphold my soul”<\/i>\u00a0Psalms 54:4<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“God is our REFUGE and STRENGTH, a very present HELP in trouble”<\/i>\u00a0Psalms 46:1.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“And he said unto him,\u00a0Why\u00a0callest\u00a0thou\u00a0me good? THERE IS NONE GOOD BUT ONE, that is, God: but if thou wilt\u00a0enter into\u00a0life, keep the commandments”<\/i>\u00a0Matthew 19:17 [Mark 10:18; Luke 18:19].<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

My point here is that you\u00a0don’t\u00a0DO God or be a godfather or an answer for any to end up being INDEBTED at your own\u00a0detriment.\u00a0I\u2019m\u00a0NOT saying you\u00a0can’t\u00a0help\u00a0out\u00a0people\u00a0where you\u00a0can, but\u00a0should\u00a0endeavour\u00a0to say NO without feeling guilty or ashamed in meeting up with someone else’s dear needs, especially when you know you cannot be the answer to meet up for such needs. You need to LIVE by your own FAITH as led by the Holy Spirit through God’s WORD in all capacity of life matters\u00a0[Habakkuk 2:4].<\/b>\u00a0Live and help within your FAITH and not in any pressure to do anything and become incapacitated for others good.\u00a0That’s\u00a0unscriptural.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“Behold, his soul which is lifted up is not upright in him: BUT THE JUST SHALL LIVE BY HIS FAITH”<\/i>\u00a0Habakkuk 2:4 [Romans 1:17; Galatians 3:11; Hebrews 10:38].<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“Neither shalt thou swear by thy head, because thou\u00a0canst not\u00a0make one hair white or black. 37 But let your COMMUNICATION be, YEA, YEA; NAY, NAY: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil”<\/i>\u00a0Matthew 5:36-37\/Emphasis Mine.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Saying NO should not be embarrassing at all just as saying YES should not be either.\u00a0Don’t\u00a0take a PARACETAMOL for someone else\u2019s\u00a0ACHES, otherwise you may start aching for your inadequacy for not been emboldened to have\u00a0said\u00a0NAY – NO, when you should have. Help where you could. Fit in where you could. Much more, LIVE AND DO LIFE BY YOUR FAITH.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t\u00a0REACT\u00a0to pressure in anyway by any means; always RESPOND by the WORD in the Holy Spirit\u00a0that’s\u00a0GIVEN to you to do LIFE in LOVE by GRACE –\u00a0Romans 5:5.<\/b>\u00a0You are RESPONSIBLE and ACCOUNTABLE on your life decisions. Make\u00a0goodly\u00a0choices.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

BE BOLD TO SAY NO – JUST AS YOU CAN SAY YES – LIVE WITHIN YOUR FAITH – DON’T DO GOD FOR ANYTHING OR ANYONE – DO ONLY THE WORD WHILE GOD DO GOD.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I pray God gives you wisdom in\u00a0this regard\u00a0before you\u00a0find yourself\u00a0at life crossroads and in guilt not knowing to say NO just as to say YES.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

SELAH – PAUSE and THINK!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

SCRIPTURAL THOUGHTS WORTH PONDERING:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“Behold, his soul which is lifted up is not upright in him: but the JUST shall LIVE by HIS FAITH”<\/i>\u00a0Habakkuk 2:4 (Emphasis Mine).<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“Neither shalt thou swear by thy head, because thou\u00a0canst not\u00a0make one hair white or black. 37 But let your COMMUNICATION be, YEA, YEA; NAY, NAY: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil”\u00a0<\/i>Matthew 5:36-37\/Emphasis Mine.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“But ABOVE ALL THINGS, my brethren, SWEAR NOT, neither by heaven, neither by the earth,\u00a0neither\u00a0BY ANY OTHER OATH: but let your YEA be YEA; and your NAY, NAY; lest ye fall into condemnation”<\/i>\u00a0James 5:12\/Emphasis Mine.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

“For the GRACE of God has appeared that OFFERS SALVATION to all people. 12 It TEACHES us to SAY \u201cNO\u201d to UNGODLINESS and WORLDLY PASSIONS, and to LIVE SELF-CONTROLLED, UPRIGHT and GODLY LIVES in this PRESENT age, 13 while we WAIT for the BLESSED hope\u2014the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, 14 who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good”<\/i>\u00a0Titus 2:11-13 NIV\/Emphasis Mine\/.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Further\u00a0Scriptural\u00a0Reading:\u00a0Galatians 3:11; Romans 1:16-17; Hebrews 10:23-39; Romans 14:23. Romans 5:1-2.<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

SUMMARY:<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The message\u00a0emphasises\u00a0the importance of living a life guided by faith in God, with a focus on saying “no” when necessary and living within one’s faith capacity.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Key Points:<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. Saying “no” is crucial:<\/b>\u00a0It’s\u00a0not embarrassing to say “no” when you\u00a0can’t\u00a0fulfill a request or demand. In fact,\u00a0it’s\u00a0necessary\u00a0for living\u00a0a godly life\u00a0(Titus 2:11-13).<\/b> <\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Live by your own faith:\u00a0<\/b>Don’t try to be someone else’s answer or live someone else’s life of faith.\u00a0You’re\u00a0accountable for your own decisions and\u00a0actions\u00a0<\/span>(Habakkuk 2:4).<\/b> <\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Be truthful and emboldened:<\/b>\u00a0Say “no” or “yes” as led by the Holy Spirit, without feeling guilty or ashamed (Matthew 5:36-37).<\/span> <\/span><\/li>\n
  4. Don’t\u00a0react\u00a0to pressure:\u00a0<\/b>Respond to situations by the Word and in love by grace, rather than reacting to pressure or trying to please others\u00a0<\/span>(Romans 5:5).<\/b> <\/span><\/li>\n
  5. You’re\u00a0responsible and accountable:<\/b>\u00a0Make good choices and\u00a0prioritise\u00a0living a life that\u00a0honours\u00a0God.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    The Dangers of People-Pleasing:<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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    • Trying to do God for others or being a people-pleaser can lead to debt, guilt, and shame.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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      • It’s\u00a0unscriptural to live someone else’s life of faith or try to be their answer. \u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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        • Our God is a jealous God who\u00a0doesn’t\u00a0share His glory with anyone\u00a0(Habakkuk 2:4).<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

          The Solution:<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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          • Live within your faith capacity and\u00a0prioritise\u00a0saying “no” when necessary.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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            • Focus on doing God’s Word and living a life guided by the Holy Spirit.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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              • Trust that God is your Helper and Refuge, and He’ll provide\u00a0what’s\u00a0needed\u00a0(Psalms 54:4, 46:1).<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

                Overall, the message encourages believers to live boldly, truthfully, and faithfully, trusting in God’s guidance and provision.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

                REV. CHUKIE MORSI<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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